Tonight I attended the meeting at Beckford, where the speaker was Nathan Levy, author of Stories With Holes, Whose Clues, and Nathan Levy’s 100 Intriguing Questions.
It was a very informative evening, and a little embarrassing for myself on my lack of on the spot multiplication skills, oh well. Anyway, here are my notes for anyone who is interested;
Nathan Levy, April 28, 2009
Checking for understanding - “Tell me what I just told you”
We are living in a society of “The Bogus Self-Esteem Movement”
“No one learns to their maximum if they are not uncomfortable”
Our children need to learn through frustration
Children need to learn to speak up (if they didn’t hear the information/ question, they need to learn to raise their hand and let people know)
Take charge of their listening;
Make eye contact
Teach children how to ask general questions
When one kid is driving you crazy, instead of focusing in on their behavior, try focusing on the preferred behavior of the other child (need more positive reinforcement).
Kids are afraid to make mistakes, but we all make mistakes in our daily life
Success - The person who gets up one more time when they fall down
The most important thing to do, is try your best
When your child is struggling with something, and then succeeds, rather than clap your hands or pat them on the shoulder.....remind them of how they felt when they were feeling down.
Learn to be unreasonable about reasonable requests
(i.e. - a reasonable request would be to expect your children to be responsible for clearing their own dishes from the table, no matter what. If your children give you all kinds of excuses why they can’t do it at that moment, be firm in your response to make them respond) (in the grand scheme of things, clearing your dishes is not all that important, and you could have easily done it for them, but they how would they learn).
3 Keys to parenthood
Be a broken record / harp if you need to
Types of thinking
Convergent thinking - Always looking for the right answer
Divergent thinking - Thinking outside the box
coming closer together, esp. in characteristics or ideas : convergent changes in languages.
• relating to convergence : a convergent boundary.
• Mathematics (of a series) approaching a definite limit as more of its terms are added.
• Biology relating to or denoting evolutionary convergence.
(of thought) tending to follow well-established patterns.
divergent |diˈvərjənt; dī-|
1 tending to be different or develop in different directions : divergent interpretations | varieties of English can remain astonishingly divergent from one another.
• Psychology (of thought) using a variety of premises, esp. unfamiliar premises, as bases for inference, and avoiding common limiting assumptions in making deductions.
2 Mathematics (of a series) increasing indefinitely as more of its terms are added.
Cultural literacy - basic things that your kids (actually everyone) is expected to know (i.e. - the first president; colors; addition ; subtraction; multiplication).
Parents and teachers are NOT THE ENEMY
Children need to know basic information (which they learn by repetition)
Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint